Communication works for those who who work at it.
When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. Shannon L.Alder
Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth-or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is always up to us, and our willingness to face and work through them. Kenneth Cloke
Why people become defensive and some ways to deal with defensiveness
By not having proper boundaries in place, you may struggle with lack of healthy self-image, and end up in toxic work or personal relationships.