Working Together Works

“ There is no limit to what a man can do, as long as he doesn’t mind who takes the credit.”

Working together works. Everyone, whether at work or in play situations need to work together. Even the horses pulling the chariot have to run at the same speed, for the chariot to move forward towards the desired destination. Working together is about equality of sacrifice to make things work.

A player in a team may be excellent in his individual performance, but he cannot become a good team player if he is not willing to sacrifice his personal acclaim for the good of the team. In your daily life, at home or at work, you might be excellent at what you do, but if you are not walking that extra mile in harmony with others or your coworkers, you are of no use.

When you help others around you feel important, you help yourself feel important too. This helps in building a positive team spirit. We all depend on others in order to achieve success. Practice being the kind of person people like.

Working together works if you think right towards people. Winning others support fuels success-building. Here’s how to build positive relationships when working together with other people.

Speak to People

Become genuinely interested in other people. There is nothing so nice as a cheerful word of greeting and a smile. Be a good listener and talk in terms of other person’s interests. This lets others know you feel kindly towards them.

Be Generous with praise

Practice appreciation with honest compliments. Let them know you appreciate what they do for you. Compliment them on little things, don’t feel that you have to praise them only for big accomplishments.

Don’t be Egotistical

Guard against the impression that you know it all. The excessive need to be “ me” will make you opinionated. Drop the need to rate others and stop imposing your standards on them. Let others talk about their views, opinions, and accomplishments.

Be Considerate

Don’t hog glory, praise others efforts too. Success depends on the support and efforts of others as well. Failing to give proper recognition will only create negativity. Recognise others contribution.

Be Friendly and Helpful

Cultivate the quality of being friendly and genuinely interested in people. You can like almost everybody if you try. Practice being the kind of person people like by taking the responsibility for your actions and admitting when you go wrong.

Don’t criticise

People don’t like to be critiqued. Don’t condemn or complain. Accept human differences. Don’t expect anyone to be perfect. Remember others have a right to be different. Find qualities to like, not things to dislike.

Think Positive towards people

Don’t blame others when things don’t go the way you want them to be. Thinking right towards people removes frustrations and stress. Give others a fine reputation to live up to. Be patient and practice liking people genuinely.

Drop the habit of overestimating your contribution to success and underestimating others contribution for the same. Claiming the credit that we don’t deserve will not only deprive people of the credit they deserve but also is going to deplete the positive team spirit.

Discipline…a virtue

“Discipline” is an important skill to achieve success in life. In fact, unless one masters self-discipline, the other tasks cannot be mastered at all.

All of us are a great deal more capable than what we can ever realise, irrespective of our age. We seldom achieve success because our sense of discipline is not in proportion to the need to make our talents blossom.
You may have the talent and intelligence of a genius, but if you do not know how to organise and discipline yourself to make the best use of your talents, your achievement level will remain average or sometimes below average.

Self-discipline begins with mastering of your thoughts. A disciplined mind let’s you think, imagine, desired dream of success and you can develop an ability to organise your behaviour towards a specific goal.
Success comes from sustained efforts towards your goal and it becomes yours when you accomplish your objectives with discipline.

As you keep attaining your goals and reaping success, you will further find fixing for yourself bigger and more challenging goals and achieving them through discipline.
Success cannot be conceived or achieved in vacuum. The main purpose to incorporate discipline and positivity in our life is to achieve our goals.

“Without Self-discipline, success is impossible, period.” – Lou Holtz

The discipline of achieving them depends overall on the following factors.

Have a Specific goal

You should have a definite aim, a decisive and time-bound goal.You should have a clear mental image of it.

Choose a Path

You need to choose the path that you need to follow in achieving it and have strong will power to stick to that path.. that is discipline.

Master your thoughts

You need to be I full control of your mind and thought process. You should bring about discipline within your mind to overcome doubts and negative thoughts.

Have a strong desire

You should have a strong, sustained, intense and burning desire to achieve it. Self-discipline is something which comes from within. Your strong desire can act as a self- motivator.

Persevere

Show confidence and faith in your efforts and persevere in a disciplined manner until your goal is achieved.

Self-discipline is the basic foundation of every new goal. It improves your will-power to overcome obstacles and moves you onwards towards your goal. Don’t change yourself all at once, instead include small disciplines one at a time. Every act of discipline strengthens your confidence and helps you stay focused on your goal.

“ Small disciplines repeated with consistency every day lead to great achievements gained slowly over time.” – John Maxwell

Making a difference

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“very little is needed to make a happy life, it’s all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius

 

Why does success elude so many? lack of hard work and luck could be the responsible factors. But in many cases, it is the lack of planning that makes all the difference. Planning involves thinking positively ahead and working towards future action. Thinking is necessary to priorities what is important for your goal and what no longer serves.

“Everyone fears failure. And therefore no one ever plans not to succeed.”

The power of thinking is a creative process and creates conscious living patterns to make your dreams into a reality. We are constantly processing all sorts of experiences and analyzing them in the form of thoughts. Mind often behaves like a wild monkey, dragging us into negativity.

The negative thoughts we have, relate to past or future and are triggered by deep rooted negative thought patterns and beliefs that are reinforced by past experiences. Negativitry is a form of resistance to that which is positive. You cannot wish for only good thoughts to prevail. To make a difference, you need to decide which ones you have to choose to achieve your goal.

People who are considered to be positive have positive set of thought patterns in their belief systems and are considered to be more successful in their endeavors. Positive thinking is a process in which your thoughts are more focused at a favorable outcome. Positive thinking helps in maximising your potential to get good results in things we want in life.

Subconscious negativity can prevent you from reaching your goal with road blocks and limitations. You have to recognise the negaṭivity and change it to positivity. When you start to make a decision that you are going to transform your negativity, you can train your mind ṭo eliminate negative emotions and thoughts.

Here are some patterns to enable you to change your mindset to positivity.

View life as an Opportunity.

Seek and view life as opportunities and noṭ set backs. Be receptive and consider them if they fit your goals and dreams. Try new things. Be optimistic and try not to surround yourself with negative people or situations. Focus your mind on the possibilities rather than the limitations.

Do Constructive thinking.

Believe in your purpose and your abilities to rise over limitations. Face the problem with optimism and have faith to succeed. Stay inspired to accomplish your goals you have set for yourself. Many people have goals and vision. All of them do not materialise because they lack a constructive approach towards achieving them.

Open attitude towards change.

Surrendering to change makes you more adaptable and flexible. Change not only brings certain amount of anxiety and uncertainty, but also helps you to explore new areas of success. Begin to accommodate and align to change.

Cultivate a “Can-do” attitude.

You face failure not the moment you are defeated, but the moment you give up fighting. Giving up is easy, instead when you face a failure, see it as an opportunity for your progression. Do not blame yourself for the failure for it hampers your chances to improve. Accept set backs as natural phenomenon and stay focused on long-term goals.

Positive Affirmations & Visualisation.

Speaking to yourself in positive statements and their repetitions can trigger the subconscious towards positive action. Creating positive mental images of your aim shall create a clear picture of your outcome and can alter your present environment and circumstances.

Know thyself & Face your fears.

Fear stops people from capitalising on opportunities. Isolate your fears and then take constructive action. Doing nothing about a situation will only strengthens fear and destroys confidence. Don’t let negative thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant situations.

Put people in proper perspective.

Remember people are more alike than they are different. Create mutually beneficial relationships with other people. Get a balanced view of others. Develop an understanding attitude. Know about the importance of seeking and accepting help.It is by giving and taking that we open doors to new opportunities.

These are some of the changes you can incorporate in your mindset to help change the negative thoughts and ideas into positive ones. Be in charge of your own life with a healthy level of self confidence. Only when you are comfortable in your ideas, will other people believe In you and your abilities. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that is essential for any kind of success we seek to achieve.

 

Return to the present moment

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Your state of mind is important for the outcome of your life. Presently there is much research showing the connection between our mind, our emotions, and our body. People come under lot of stress in their daily lives as they face tough competition to excel at every stage and in every sphere of life. Many develop anxiety disorders, disturbed sleep patterns and stress. To manage effectively and to have peace of mind, it is important one must practice mindfulness every day.

Mindfulness helps you to return to and stay in the present moment by slowing down the thoughts. It helps in balancing the mind and makes you realise that there is no control over past and future. Make it your practice to withdraw attention from past and future. Break the old patterns of present-moment denial and present-moment resistance. Watch your mind without any judgement or analysis.

Continuous practice makes you observe that future is usually imagined as either better or worse than the present. If it is for better it gives you hope and if it is worse, it creates anxiety. The habitual tendency of resisting the present moment creates anger and frustration.

“Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of the present experience. It isn’t complicated than that. It is opening to or receiving the present moment, pleasant or unpleasant, just as it is, without either clinging to it or rejeciting.”

Researchers in various studies have found that practicing mindfulness can help people suffering from depression and anxiety just as much as commonly prescribed anti-depressant drugs. Practicing mindfulness would offer a long-term approach to dealing with depression.

Here is a small story mentioned in the classic guide of Thich Nhat HanH’s The Miracle of Mindfulness stating the importance of practicing mindfulness of one’s own self- that is, to protect and care for one’s self and not being preoccupied about the way others look after themselves, which gives rise to resentment and anxiety.

“There once were a couple of acrobats. The teacher was a poor widower and the student was a small girl named Meḍa. The two of them performed in the streets to earn enough to eat. They used a tall bamboo pole which the teacher balanced on the top of his head while the little girl slowly climbed to the top. There she remained while the teacher continued to walk along the ground. Both of them had to devote all their attention to maintain perfect balance and th prevent any accident from occurring.
One day the teacher instructed the pupil: ‘ Listen Meda, I will watch you and you watch me, so that we can help each other maintain concentration and balance. This way we can prevent an accident and then we will be earn enough to eat.”
But the little girl was wise and answered, ‘Dear master, I think it would be better for each of us to watch ourself. To look after oneself means to look after both of us. That way we will avoid accident and will earn enough to eat.” Because of the presence of one member who lives in mindfulness, everyone else is reminded to live in mindfulness.

Don’t worry about if those around you aren’t doing their best. Doing your best is the surest way to remind those around you to do their best.

Sitting in mindfulness and trying to pay attention to the present moment can bring relaxation to your body and mind. Everyday little and often, practice mindfulness. Practicing even in small doses can help you experience the well-being.

 

 

Aim for healthy all- round development of children

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The adequacy of the child’s general adjustments or his behavioural aspects cannot ascribe solely to the conditions found in the school itself. Even during his/ her school years child is a subject to the influences of home and community. When the children are in school both the family and the community continue to influence the personality development for weal or woe.

In the home, the school and the community may be found the main influences which either reduce or intensify the effect of weakness already present.

Children from young age silently imbibe all the bad things and unruly behaviour of others around them, and the most solid influence and source of such behaviour comes from parents and the environment they live in. Seeing their parents or others in the community they live in getting their way by displaying aggression over other people. They tend to repeat the same behaviour in their life and gets imbibed into his character. This behaviour if not checked will certainly result into them grow up to become aggressive adults. When faced with tough situations in life, such children don’t hesitate to indulge themselves in criminal or anti-social activities.

parents should be impartial and their relationship with each other should be harmonious. They should check their child’s behaviour at home and outside in public places whenever it gets aggressive. Suitable training should be provided to correct their behaviour. At the same time give them love and affection. Encourage them to be responsible for their behaviour. If we can provide all of this and a community which has a tolerant attitude, then the child attends the school with an integrated personality.
If on the other hand, he comes from an imbalanced or over-protecting or a community where he is rejected, or discriminated against, he will often bring to school a deficient personality.

The school has the responsibility of providing a friendly environment with teachers understanding the child’s needs and aiding the continuation of his sound personality-growth. Assist the children in correcting their behaviour arriving at methods to handle them.
Children’s behaviour is the result of combination of all these factors in which the schools, community, and parents play vital role in the personality development of the child at an young and continue to play an import role in later stages of their lives.

Child’s character is determined by the sum total of these impressions we leave in them. If good impressions prevail, the character becomes good, if child is subjected to bad words and bad actions, his mind will be full of bad impressions; and the sum total of these impressions in them will create the strong motive power for doing bad actions and they coalesce to become a habit.
Therefore, for the healthy all- round development of children all the factors that influence them need to be set right.

 

Belief… A force multiplier

Make right convictions
Beliefs have the power to create and to destroy. Once accepted, our beliefs become unquestioned commands to our nervous system, and they have the power to expand or destroy the possibilities of our present and future. If we want to direct our lives, then we must take conscious control over our beliefs. There are certain events or evidences that form our belief and start directing our actions. We always keep looking for evidences that can help building new ones and neutralising the existing ones. Always try and build empowering beliefs that can help you achieve your goals.
Four key beliefs of successful people:

Belief 1: Have Succeeded

Successful people believe in their skills and talents. They constantly tell themselves that they have the skills and talents to win and keep winning. They lean on their past successes to maintain their successful attitude. This helps in building their confidence and positivism.

Belief 2: Can Succeed

Successful people believe that they have the capability within themselves to make desirable things happen. They are confident that they can succeed. Through sheer force of their personal ability or brainpower, can steer a situation in their direction They believe in not getting afraid of uncertainty or ambiguity.

Belief 3: Will Succeed

Successful people believe that they have all the motivation to succeed and are optimistic in their endeavors. They have an unflappable optimism that if we have succeeded in the past, we can in the present and so will be in future.

Belief 4: Choose to Succeed

Successful people always choose to succeed. They see opportunities where others see threats. With high self-determination they do what they chose to do and remain committed to their beliefs.
Success in achieving a goal depends upon your belief whether you are competent to achieve the desired goal or not. Your belief depends on your past experiences and focus, which together sometimes might create a belief that can be disempowering. Make those beliefs that empower you.
Right convictions help us to make strong foundation. They act as guides on the path to success and turn what we wish for into reality.