Change your mindset

Your mindset determines your success. Grow your mindset to reach your full potential.

Mindsets are an important part of your personality and behaviour. Your ‘personality mindset’ comes into play in situations that involve your personal qualities — how dependable, cooperative, caring or socially skilled you are. People always think, act and fare differently from each other. These differences are mainly due to people’s backgrounds, experiences, training or ways of learning. The view thus adopted for yourself has a profound affect on the way you lead your life. This view becomes your mindset and can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value.

The two mindsets

Believing that your qualities are fixed and thinking that you have certain kind of intelligence, certain personality and a moral character makes you a person of fixed mindset. For people with fixed mindset, human qualities are like they are carved in stone and intelligence or personality is something that is fixed or is a deep-seated trait.

Believing that your intelligence or personality is something you can develop and that human qualities are not fixed and you can always make an effort to improve yourself makes you a person of growth mindset. People with growth mindset do not waste time proving how great they are, but instead believe that the basic qualities can be cultivated through learning and they constantly better themselves with continuous effort.

Fixed mindset vs growth mindset

Most of us are trained in fixed mindset from an early age creating a mindset in which our one consuming goal is to look smart and prove ourselves in classrooms, careers, and in our relationships.

People with fixed mindset have a constant urge to prove themselves to others and they feel rejected with minor disappointments and setbacks. Do not confuse yourself fixed mindset with low self esteem. They are just as worthy and optimistic when they aren’t coping with failure. They strongly believe “If at first you don’t succeed, you probably don’t have the ability.” Or “ If Rome wasn’t built in a day, may be it wasn’t meant to be.”

Fixed mindset does not let you believe in putting effort or getting help, and makes you fear the challenges with its focus on permanent traits. People with this mindset tend to misestimate their performance and their ability. This turns them into non-learners and lose interest when things get too challenging. They have higher levels of depression and ruminate over minor problems and setbacks.

On the contrary, growth mindset lets you understand the power of persistence and the importance of taking risks. It lets you recognise the value of challenges and overcoming obstacles. People with growth mindset think they can work much harder and always resolve to do better. They strongly believe in “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” Or “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”

It is interesting to know that those with the growth mindset can identify their own strengths and weaknesses. This leads to the love of challenge, belief in effort, and resilience in the face of setbacks. With their focus on development, they take action to confront their problems and become more determined to take up the challenges.

Mindset shift

By being aware of both mindsets, you can start thinking in new ways. All of us have elements of both — a mixture of fixed and growth mindsets. People can also have different mindsets in different areas.

Your personality or intelligence is something you can develop. You can always make an effort to shift your mindset in order to take better action. Mindset is not a fixed quantity and can be changed or increased with practice, training, and above all you can improve your attention, memory, and your judgment. A simple shift in your mindset can transform you into the person you want to be and can accomplish the things you value.A mindset shift lets you-

love what you are doing.

Believing talents can be developed allows you to fulfil your potential. Growth mindset allows people to love what they are doing. Many successful people didn’t even plan to go to the top. They arrived there as a by-product of their enthusiasm and love for what they did. In the fixed mindset, you tend to base everything on outcome. It makes you think if you fail or if you are not the best—it is all been wasted. By changing your mindset, you begin to value and love what you are doing regardless of outcome.

value effort.

Fixed mindset undermines the value of effort. It makes you think effort is for those who don’t have the ability or “Things come easily to people who are true geniuses” or “If you have to work at something, you must not be good at it.” We begin to prefer effortless success and become intolerant of mistakes, criticism or setbacks as we constantly crave for validation by others.

Whereas by changing you perspective to growth mindset, you begin to admire the effort, for no matter what your ability is. You can catch yourself when you are in the throes of the fixed mindset — like instead of getting discouraged when something requires lot of effort, challenge yourself and continue your effort. Know that many successful people did not have natural ability, but developed exceptional skills through their effort.

overcome failures.

Growth mindset doesn’t let failure define you. Failure for growth mindset is something to be faced, dealt with, and learned from. It makes you concerned with improving as you are open to the accurate information about your current abilities. People with fixed mindset instead of trying to learn from and repair their failures, they simply try to repair their self-esteem by assigning blame or making excuses. Growth mindset thinkers correct their deficiencies and learn from their mistakes in an effort to better themselves.

Here is how you can change your mindset:

• A fixed mindset can undo your learning habit. When we try to learn something new, may be a sport, dance or a new skill, many times it gets hard and we opt out either because you felt bored or tired. Next time this happens don’t let the fixed mindset take over. Do not assume you are always bad at it. Well, may be you are, but then may be you aren’t. Grow your mind set by putting in the effort in learning.

• It feels nice to surround yourself with people who make you feel faultless. It is always tempting to create a world in which we feel perfect. But you will never be able to grow. Try and seek constructive criticism.

• If you think something from your past, like being rejected or a test score or a callous action, measured you wrong, focus on that thing and feel all the emotions that go with it. Get into the growth mindset perspective. Understand your role in your growth and know that it doesn’t define your personality or intelligence.

• Next time you feel depressed or low, grow your perspective by thinking about learning, challenging and by confronting obstacles. Think about your effort as a positive and more constructive force.

• When people outdo you, instead of assuming that they were smarter or more talented, consider that they just used better strategies, taught themselves more, practiced harder and worked their way through obstacles. You can do that too if you grow your mindset.

Finally, most of us become the targets of negative stereotyping. Even when the negative label comes along, you can remain incharge by developing your growth mindset.

Fixed mindset stands in the way of development and change. The growth mindset is the starting point for change, but you need to decide for yourself where you need to put it n your efforts and where they would be most valuable.

Focus: A key to unlock your potential

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“No matter how well informed you may be, no matter how highly developed are your intellectual abilities, without right focus and concentration you cannot achieve perfection.”

Your focus determines the experiences you have and the experiences you have determine the life you live. Each time you focus negatively on things, your brain solidifies its habitual pathways and distracts and takes you away from your abilities. A positive focus increases your potential by not wasting your attention levels and gives you better access to your abilities.

To achieve life of your desired experiences, you need to strengthen your positive focus and should stop focusing on negative pathways. With right focus, you can manage yourself and your time in a more productive manner. Concentrating on the activities you choose enables you to create a life of your choice by devoting more time to your priorities.

Essence of right focus

Focus is not only essential in our professional life, but also is important in our personal lives. We need right focus in order to develop some skills to improve things and solve problems in our day to day life.

The ability to focus develops a strong will which can be applied to change your habits or mindsets in order to improve your productivity. Strong will to focus weakens the distractions thereby inhibiting the wrong impulses and improves self-control which leads to good emotional adjustment, better interpersonal skills, and adaptability.

“Those who focus best are relatively immune to emotional turbulence. The power to disengage our attention from one thing and move it to another is essential for well-being.”

Power of right focus

One essential quality for the success is the ability to concentrate entire thought upon the idea you are working on. All achievements in any line of work is the result of having right focus. Practicing focus management lets you explore by disengaging yourself from distractions and search for new possibilities. This makes you flexible to choose what is important to you and does not let distractions derail your aspirations and intentions.

By improving your focus, you can gain more skills to do better work each day.
Focusing and directing your attention to the right things and the ability to guide the others attention in the rightful direction also develops your leadership skills and makes you a good decision-maker.

Focus is developed by making conscious effort and it takes great mental strength but once learned takes you closer to the realisation of your dreams.

6 Keys to build right focus

1. Set a clear goal

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.”
Zig Ziglar

Know what you want by setting clear goals and purpose. When you have a clear goal, you know what will get you closer to it and what won’t and you don’t get caught up in distractions. This way, you don’t end up wasting time on things that hold you back. Knowing your purpose is sometimes all you need to build your focus.

“ Focus is not just selecting the right thing, but also saying no to the wrong ones.” Whatever is relevant to your goal gets priority.

2. Develop a strong will-power

The will- power can guide your inner focus towards achieving your goals. “It acts like a beam of light. It does little if gets scattered, but if you use it to focus, it can work like laser.”

An extrinsic motivation can only keep you focused for short time, but you need to develop a strong will to build right focus to act on your goals for longer time and to keep you on the right path tuning out distractions. Apply the will power to focus on desired habits.

3. Have better self-control

“Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.”– Alan Loy McGinnis

All of us have different tendencies. One wants us to advance towards our dreams and goals and the other wants to pull us back and distracts. Both natures try to gain control. The one that we focus upon gets cultivated and decides what we become.
Focus on your abilities and not on your limitations or fears. Choice lies with us whether we allow the inner self to control us or whether we will be controlled by the brute within us.

4. Practice gratitude

Be thankful to what you have. This creates the right focus on your abilities to achieve your goals. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you weigh yourself down by self created negativity. Practice being unattached to the results or outcomes of your tasks. Focus on what is in front of you and on the process, this creates a clear vision. Appreciate yourself everytime you apply right focus each day to accomplish these goals.

5. Avoid multitasking

Some of us scatter our focus trying ṭo get too many little things done instead of focusing on higher priority tasks. When jugglers keep objects in the air at once, they focus on only one object in any given moment, if they scatter their attention among all objects, they may drop all of them.

Multitasking leads to inefficiency and creates stress. So focus on your priorities and handle them one at a time. Do those things more slowly and completely to maintain and gain more focus.

6. Practice being in the moment

Most days, our minds are in ten different places at any one time. As soon as we try to focus, thousands of undesired impulses rush into the brain and try to disturb us. By developing present moment awareness you will be able to reclaim your focus and will be able to unlock your full potential. Devote time to practice mindfulness and try doing your daily activities as form of meditation by concentrating and doing them slowly and completely.

Finally, commit to yourself by eliminating multitude of distractions in your life by concentrating on only those activities that have power to make a difference in the way you want to live or work. You can direct your attention towards finding your focus and develop the confidence to stay committed and motivated to achieve your goal. A sustained focus refines your efficiencies and improves your overall performance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Working Together Works

“ There is no limit to what a man can do, as long as he doesn’t mind who takes the credit.”

Working together works. Everyone, whether at work or in play situations need to work together. Even the horses pulling the chariot have to run at the same speed, for the chariot to move forward towards the desired destination. Working together is about equality of sacrifice to make things work.

A player in a team may be excellent in his individual performance, but he cannot become a good team player if he is not willing to sacrifice his personal acclaim for the good of the team. In your daily life, at home or at work, you might be excellent at what you do, but if you are not walking that extra mile in harmony with others or your coworkers, you are of no use.

When you help others around you feel important, you help yourself feel important too. This helps in building a positive team spirit. We all depend on others in order to achieve success. Practice being the kind of person people like.

Working together works if you think right towards people. Winning others support fuels success-building. Here’s how to build positive relationships when working together with other people.

Speak to People

Become genuinely interested in other people. There is nothing so nice as a cheerful word of greeting and a smile. Be a good listener and talk in terms of other person’s interests. This lets others know you feel kindly towards them.

Be Generous with praise

Practice appreciation with honest compliments. Let them know you appreciate what they do for you. Compliment them on little things, don’t feel that you have to praise them only for big accomplishments.

Don’t be Egotistical

Guard against the impression that you know it all. The excessive need to be “ me” will make you opinionated. Drop the need to rate others and stop imposing your standards on them. Let others talk about their views, opinions, and accomplishments.

Be Considerate

Don’t hog glory, praise others efforts too. Success depends on the support and efforts of others as well. Failing to give proper recognition will only create negativity. Recognise others contribution.

Be Friendly and Helpful

Cultivate the quality of being friendly and genuinely interested in people. You can like almost everybody if you try. Practice being the kind of person people like by taking the responsibility for your actions and admitting when you go wrong.

Don’t criticise

People don’t like to be critiqued. Don’t condemn or complain. Accept human differences. Don’t expect anyone to be perfect. Remember others have a right to be different. Find qualities to like, not things to dislike.

Think Positive towards people

Don’t blame others when things don’t go the way you want them to be. Thinking right towards people removes frustrations and stress. Give others a fine reputation to live up to. Be patient and practice liking people genuinely.

Drop the habit of overestimating your contribution to success and underestimating others contribution for the same. Claiming the credit that we don’t deserve will not only deprive people of the credit they deserve but also is going to deplete the positive team spirit.

Discipline…a virtue

“Discipline” is an important skill to achieve success in life. In fact, unless one masters self-discipline, the other tasks cannot be mastered at all.

All of us are a great deal more capable than what we can ever realise, irrespective of our age. We seldom achieve success because our sense of discipline is not in proportion to the need to make our talents blossom.
You may have the talent and intelligence of a genius, but if you do not know how to organise and discipline yourself to make the best use of your talents, your achievement level will remain average or sometimes below average.

Self-discipline begins with mastering of your thoughts. A disciplined mind let’s you think, imagine, desired dream of success and you can develop an ability to organise your behaviour towards a specific goal.
Success comes from sustained efforts towards your goal and it becomes yours when you accomplish your objectives with discipline.

As you keep attaining your goals and reaping success, you will further find fixing for yourself bigger and more challenging goals and achieving them through discipline.
Success cannot be conceived or achieved in vacuum. The main purpose to incorporate discipline and positivity in our life is to achieve our goals.

“Without Self-discipline, success is impossible, period.” – Lou Holtz

The discipline of achieving them depends overall on the following factors.

Have a Specific goal

You should have a definite aim, a decisive and time-bound goal.You should have a clear mental image of it.

Choose a Path

You need to choose the path that you need to follow in achieving it and have strong will power to stick to that path.. that is discipline.

Master your thoughts

You need to be I full control of your mind and thought process. You should bring about discipline within your mind to overcome doubts and negative thoughts.

Have a strong desire

You should have a strong, sustained, intense and burning desire to achieve it. Self-discipline is something which comes from within. Your strong desire can act as a self- motivator.

Persevere

Show confidence and faith in your efforts and persevere in a disciplined manner until your goal is achieved.

Self-discipline is the basic foundation of every new goal. It improves your will-power to overcome obstacles and moves you onwards towards your goal. Don’t change yourself all at once, instead include small disciplines one at a time. Every act of discipline strengthens your confidence and helps you stay focused on your goal.

“ Small disciplines repeated with consistency every day lead to great achievements gained slowly over time.” – John Maxwell

Making a difference

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“very little is needed to make a happy life, it’s all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius

 

Why does success elude so many? lack of hard work and luck could be the responsible factors. But in many cases, it is the lack of planning that makes all the difference. Planning involves thinking positively ahead and working towards future action. Thinking is necessary to priorities what is important for your goal and what no longer serves.

“Everyone fears failure. And therefore no one ever plans not to succeed.”

The power of thinking is a creative process and creates conscious living patterns to make your dreams into a reality. We are constantly processing all sorts of experiences and analyzing them in the form of thoughts. Mind often behaves like a wild monkey, dragging us into negativity.

The negative thoughts we have, relate to past or future and are triggered by deep rooted negative thought patterns and beliefs that are reinforced by past experiences. Negativitry is a form of resistance to that which is positive. You cannot wish for only good thoughts to prevail. To make a difference, you need to decide which ones you have to choose to achieve your goal.

People who are considered to be positive have positive set of thought patterns in their belief systems and are considered to be more successful in their endeavors. Positive thinking is a process in which your thoughts are more focused at a favorable outcome. Positive thinking helps in maximising your potential to get good results in things we want in life.

Subconscious negativity can prevent you from reaching your goal with road blocks and limitations. You have to recognise the negaṭivity and change it to positivity. When you start to make a decision that you are going to transform your negativity, you can train your mind ṭo eliminate negative emotions and thoughts.

Here are some patterns to enable you to change your mindset to positivity.

View life as an Opportunity.

Seek and view life as opportunities and noṭ set backs. Be receptive and consider them if they fit your goals and dreams. Try new things. Be optimistic and try not to surround yourself with negative people or situations. Focus your mind on the possibilities rather than the limitations.

Do Constructive thinking.

Believe in your purpose and your abilities to rise over limitations. Face the problem with optimism and have faith to succeed. Stay inspired to accomplish your goals you have set for yourself. Many people have goals and vision. All of them do not materialise because they lack a constructive approach towards achieving them.

Open attitude towards change.

Surrendering to change makes you more adaptable and flexible. Change not only brings certain amount of anxiety and uncertainty, but also helps you to explore new areas of success. Begin to accommodate and align to change.

Cultivate a “Can-do” attitude.

You face failure not the moment you are defeated, but the moment you give up fighting. Giving up is easy, instead when you face a failure, see it as an opportunity for your progression. Do not blame yourself for the failure for it hampers your chances to improve. Accept set backs as natural phenomenon and stay focused on long-term goals.

Positive Affirmations & Visualisation.

Speaking to yourself in positive statements and their repetitions can trigger the subconscious towards positive action. Creating positive mental images of your aim shall create a clear picture of your outcome and can alter your present environment and circumstances.

Know thyself & Face your fears.

Fear stops people from capitalising on opportunities. Isolate your fears and then take constructive action. Doing nothing about a situation will only strengthens fear and destroys confidence. Don’t let negative thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant situations.

Put people in proper perspective.

Remember people are more alike than they are different. Create mutually beneficial relationships with other people. Get a balanced view of others. Develop an understanding attitude. Know about the importance of seeking and accepting help.It is by giving and taking that we open doors to new opportunities.

These are some of the changes you can incorporate in your mindset to help change the negative thoughts and ideas into positive ones. Be in charge of your own life with a healthy level of self confidence. Only when you are comfortable in your ideas, will other people believe In you and your abilities. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that is essential for any kind of success we seek to achieve.

 

Belief… A force multiplier

Make right convictions
Beliefs have the power to create and to destroy. Once accepted, our beliefs become unquestioned commands to our nervous system, and they have the power to expand or destroy the possibilities of our present and future. If we want to direct our lives, then we must take conscious control over our beliefs. There are certain events or evidences that form our belief and start directing our actions. We always keep looking for evidences that can help building new ones and neutralising the existing ones. Always try and build empowering beliefs that can help you achieve your goals.
Four key beliefs of successful people:

Belief 1: Have Succeeded

Successful people believe in their skills and talents. They constantly tell themselves that they have the skills and talents to win and keep winning. They lean on their past successes to maintain their successful attitude. This helps in building their confidence and positivism.

Belief 2: Can Succeed

Successful people believe that they have the capability within themselves to make desirable things happen. They are confident that they can succeed. Through sheer force of their personal ability or brainpower, can steer a situation in their direction They believe in not getting afraid of uncertainty or ambiguity.

Belief 3: Will Succeed

Successful people believe that they have all the motivation to succeed and are optimistic in their endeavors. They have an unflappable optimism that if we have succeeded in the past, we can in the present and so will be in future.

Belief 4: Choose to Succeed

Successful people always choose to succeed. They see opportunities where others see threats. With high self-determination they do what they chose to do and remain committed to their beliefs.
Success in achieving a goal depends upon your belief whether you are competent to achieve the desired goal or not. Your belief depends on your past experiences and focus, which together sometimes might create a belief that can be disempowering. Make those beliefs that empower you.
Right convictions help us to make strong foundation. They act as guides on the path to success and turn what we wish for into reality.