“Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time”. – George Barnard Shaw
Everyone wants to live the life of their dreams. When you start to live the life of your dreams, there are going to be obstacles, mistakes, and setbacks along the way. Often a trivial mistake we commit can make us feel dejected. Each of us have our own flaws. We must not allow them to overwhelm us and discourage us in the pursuit of our dreams.
Mistakes are sometimes committed unintentionally or being ignorant or by lack of understanding. You will be a better person if you try and learn from them and not to allow them to happen again.
We sometimes have to change ourselves for better in order not to get stuck in the loop of committing the same mistakes.
Here are some simple guideposts to help you turn your mistakes into learning opportunities.
Admit your mistakes.
If you go wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. Take responsibility for your actions. Do not be afraid of admitting your mistakes. Have the courage to be your own critic. Seek your faults and correct them. This is one habit which distinguishes a winner from a loser.
Get out of error groove.
“By dwelling too much upon your mistakes you can keep yourself in an error groove”. Clinging to your thinking about your mistakes can condition you to make the same mistakes again. Come out of the error groove. Don’t let your mistakes in the past ruin your present.
Learn from your mistakes.
Research each mistake. Try and work out what you did wrong and devise new strategies to equip yourselves to do better in the future. learn that there is a good side to every mistake. Train your mind to learn from your successes.
Feel free to innovate.
“Don’t let the fear of committing mistakes keep you from trying new things”.
Every time you innovate, you are going to run the risk of making a mistake. It is okay if you go wrong when you are trying something new. You need not get it right in the first attempt. Learn and then go on to get it right next time.
Turn On the Problem-solving mode.
Learn to respond to your mistakes by thinking how not to let them happen again. This will take you to a problem-solving mode. This way, you can arrive at a solution in correcting the mistakes and not get discouraged. But if you ignore the mistakes, then that type of thinking will keep you away from learning and advancing towards your goals.
Have right focus.
Everyday we do certain things frequently. This gets us into a habitual mode of doing tasks. We don’t focus on them completely and our minds wander because of the habitual nature. This is when mistakes happen. The key here is to have right focus and pay attention towards your goals.
Remember to persist with your goals and dreams. See the good side and never allow yourself to get discouraged. Give yourself countless opportunities to learn and grow from your mistakes.
“very little is needed to make a happy life, it’s all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius
Why does success elude so many? lack of hard work and luck could be the responsible factors. But in many cases, it is the lack of planning that makes all the difference. Planning involves thinking positively ahead and working towards future action. Thinking is necessary to priorities what is important for your goal and what no longer serves.
“Everyone fears failure. And therefore no one ever plans not to succeed.”
The power of thinking is a creative process and creates conscious living patterns to make your dreams into a reality. We are constantly processing all sorts of experiences and analyzing them in the form of thoughts. Mind often behaves like a wild monkey, dragging us into negativity.
The negative thoughts we have, relate to past or future and are triggered by deep rooted negative thought patterns and beliefs that are reinforced by past experiences. Negativitry is a form of resistance to that which is positive. You cannot wish for only good thoughts to prevail. To make a difference, you need to decide which ones you have to choose to achieve your goal.
People who are considered to be positive have positive set of thought patterns in their belief systems and are considered to be more successful in their endeavors. Positive thinking is a process in which your thoughts are more focused at a favorable outcome. Positive thinking helps in maximising your potential to get good results in things we want in life.
Subconscious negativity can prevent you from reaching your goal with road blocks and limitations. You have to recognise the negaṭivity and change it to positivity. When you start to make a decision that you are going to transform your negativity, you can train your mind ṭo eliminate negative emotions and thoughts.
Here are some patterns to enable you to change your mindset to positivity.
View life as an Opportunity.
Seek and view life as opportunities and noṭ set backs. Be receptive and consider them if they fit your goals and dreams. Try new things. Be optimistic and try not to surround yourself with negative people or situations. Focus your mind on the possibilities rather than the limitations.
Do Constructive thinking.
Believe in your purpose and your abilities to rise over limitations. Face the problem with optimism and have faith to succeed. Stay inspired to accomplish your goals you have set for yourself. Many people have goals and vision. All of them do not materialise because they lack a constructive approach towards achieving them.
Open attitude towards change.
Surrendering to change makes you more adaptable and flexible. Change not only brings certain amount of anxiety and uncertainty, but also helps you to explore new areas of success. Begin to accommodate and align to change.
Cultivate a “Can-do” attitude.
You face failure not the moment you are defeated, but the moment you give up fighting. Giving up is easy, instead when you face a failure, see it as an opportunity for your progression. Do not blame yourself for the failure for it hampers your chances to improve. Accept set backs as natural phenomenon and stay focused on long-term goals.
Positive Affirmations & Visualisation.
Speaking to yourself in positive statements and their repetitions can trigger the subconscious towards positive action. Creating positive mental images of your aim shall create a clear picture of your outcome and can alter your present environment and circumstances.
Know thyself & Face your fears.
Fear stops people from capitalising on opportunities. Isolate your fears and then take constructive action. Doing nothing about a situation will only strengthens fear and destroys confidence. Don’t let negative thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant situations.
Put people in proper perspective.
Remember people are more alike than they are different. Create mutually beneficial relationships with other people. Get a balanced view of others. Develop an understanding attitude. Know about the importance of seeking and accepting help.It is by giving and taking that we open doors to new opportunities.
These are some of the changes you can incorporate in your mindset to help change the negative thoughts and ideas into positive ones. Be in charge of your own life with a healthy level of self confidence. Only when you are comfortable in your ideas, will other people believe In you and your abilities. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that is essential for any kind of success we seek to achieve.
Once there was a hare and the tortoise. They had an argument about who was faster. They decided to settle the argument with a race. They agreed on route and started off the race. The hare shot ahead and ran briskly for some tine. Then realising he was far ahead, he sat under a tree to relax for sometime and soon fell asleep. The tortoise overtook him and emerged as the winner.
The moral of the story is that slow and steady wins the race.
This is the version that we’ve all grown up with. But, here is an interesting version of this story I’ve come across, with a different perspective and can be a good performance enhancer in our life.
The hare was disappointed at losing the race and he did some soul-searching. He realised that he’d lost the race only because he had been overconfident, careless and lax. If he had not taken things for granted, there’s no way the tortoise could have beaten him. So he challenged the tortoise to another race. The tortoise agreed. This time, the hare went all out and ran without stopping from start to finish. He won by several miles.
The moral of the story:
1.Fast and consistent will always beat the slow and steady.
2.If you have two people in your workplace, one slow, methodical and reliable, and the other fast and still reliable at what he does, the fast and reliable will climb the performance chart than the slow and methodical.
3.It’s good to be slow and steady; but it’s better to be fast and reliable.
But the story doesn’t end here. The tortoise did some thinking and realised that there’s no way he can beat the hare in a race the way it was currently formatted. He then challenged the hare to another race, but this time on a different route. The hare agreed.They started off. In keeping with his self-made commitment to be consistently fast, the hare took off and ran at top speed until he came to a broad river. The finishing line was a couple of miles on the other side of the river. The hare sat there wondering what to do. In the meantime the tortoise trundled along, got into the river, swam to the opposite bank, continued walking and finished the race.
The moral of the story:
1.First identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit to your competency.
2.Working to your strengths will not only get you noticed, but will also create opportunities for growth and advancement.
The story still hasn’t ended. The hare and the tortoise, by this time, had become pretty good friends
and they did some thinking together. Both realised that the last race could have been run much better.
So they decided to do the last race again, but to run as a team this rime. They started off, and this rime the hare carried the tortoise till the river bank. There, the tortoise took over and swam across with the hare on his back. On the opposite bank, the hare again carried the tortoise and they reached the finishing line together.
The moral of the story: