“Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time”. – George Barnard Shaw
Everyone wants to live the life of their dreams. When you start to live the life of your dreams, there are going to be obstacles, mistakes, and setbacks along the way. Often a trivial mistake we commit can make us feel dejected. Each of us have our own flaws. We must not allow them to overwhelm us and discourage us in the pursuit of our dreams.
Mistakes are sometimes committed unintentionally or being ignorant or by lack of understanding. You will be a better person if you try and learn from them and not to allow them to happen again.
We sometimes have to change ourselves for better in order not to get stuck in the loop of committing the same mistakes.
Here are some simple guideposts to help you turn your mistakes into learning opportunities.
Admit your mistakes.
If you go wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. Take responsibility for your actions. Do not be afraid of admitting your mistakes. Have the courage to be your own critic. Seek your faults and correct them. This is one habit which distinguishes a winner from a loser.
Get out of error groove.
“By dwelling too much upon your mistakes you can keep yourself in an error groove”. Clinging to your thinking about your mistakes can condition you to make the same mistakes again. Come out of the error groove. Don’t let your mistakes in the past ruin your present.
Learn from your mistakes.
Research each mistake. Try and work out what you did wrong and devise new strategies to equip yourselves to do better in the future. learn that there is a good side to every mistake. Train your mind to learn from your successes.
Feel free to innovate.
“Don’t let the fear of committing mistakes keep you from trying new things”.
Every time you innovate, you are going to run the risk of making a mistake. It is okay if you go wrong when you are trying something new. You need not get it right in the first attempt. Learn and then go on to get it right next time.
Turn On the Problem-solving mode.
Learn to respond to your mistakes by thinking how not to let them happen again. This will take you to a problem-solving mode. This way, you can arrive at a solution in correcting the mistakes and not get discouraged. But if you ignore the mistakes, then that type of thinking will keep you away from learning and advancing towards your goals.
Have right focus.
Everyday we do certain things frequently. This gets us into a habitual mode of doing tasks. We don’t focus on them completely and our minds wander because of the habitual nature. This is when mistakes happen. The key here is to have right focus and pay attention towards your goals.
Remember to persist with your goals and dreams. See the good side and never allow yourself to get discouraged. Give yourself countless opportunities to learn and grow from your mistakes.
“ There is no limit to what a man can do, as long as he doesn’t mind who takes the credit.”
Working together works. Everyone, whether at work or in play situations need to work together. Even the horses pulling the chariot have to run at the same speed, for the chariot to move forward towards the desired destination. Working together is about equality of sacrifice to make things work.
A player in a team may be excellent in his individual performance, but he cannot become a good team player if he is not willing to sacrifice his personal acclaim for the good of the team. In your daily life, at home or at work, you might be excellent at what you do, but if you are not walking that extra mile in harmony with others or your coworkers, you are of no use.
When you help others around you feel important, you help yourself feel important too. This helps in building a positive team spirit. We all depend on others in order to achieve success. Practice being the kind of person people like.
Working together works if you think right towards people. Winning others support fuels success-building. Here’s how to build positive relationships when working together with other people.
Speak to People
Become genuinely interested in other people. There is nothing so nice as a cheerful word of greeting and a smile. Be a good listener and talk in terms of other person’s interests. This lets others know you feel kindly towards them.
Be Generous with praise
Practice appreciation with honest compliments. Let them know you appreciate what they do for you. Compliment them on little things, don’t feel that you have to praise them only for big accomplishments.
Don’t be Egotistical
Guard against the impression that you know it all. The excessive need to be “ me” will make you opinionated. Drop the need to rate others and stop imposing your standards on them. Let others talk about their views, opinions, and accomplishments.
Don’t hog glory, praise others efforts too. Success depends on the support and efforts of others as well. Failing to give proper recognition will only create negativity. Recognise others contribution.
Be Friendly and Helpful
Cultivate the quality of being friendly and genuinely interested in people. You can like almost everybody if you try. Practice being the kind of person people like by taking the responsibility for your actions and admitting when you go wrong.
People don’t like to be critiqued. Don’t condemn or complain. Accept human differences. Don’t expect anyone to be perfect. Remember others have a right to be different. Find qualities to like, not things to dislike.
Think Positive towards people
Don’t blame others when things don’t go the way you want them to be. Thinking right towards people removes frustrations and stress. Give others a fine reputation to live up to. Be patient and practice liking people genuinely.
Drop the habit of overestimating your contribution to success and underestimating others contribution for the same. Claiming the credit that we don’t deserve will not only deprive people of the credit they deserve but also is going to deplete the positive team spirit.
“Discipline” is an important skill to achieve success in life. In fact, unless one masters self-discipline, the other tasks cannot be mastered at all.
All of us are a great deal more capable than what we can ever realise, irrespective of our age. We seldom achieve success because our sense of discipline is not in proportion to the need to make our talents blossom.
You may have the talent and intelligence of a genius, but if you do not know how to organise and discipline yourself to make the best use of your talents, your achievement level will remain average or sometimes below average.
Self-discipline begins with mastering of your thoughts. A disciplined mind let’s you think, imagine, desired dream of success and you can develop an ability to organise your behaviour towards a specific goal.
Success comes from sustained efforts towards your goal and it becomes yours when you accomplish your objectives with discipline.
As you keep attaining your goals and reaping success, you will further find fixing for yourself bigger and more challenging goals and achieving them through discipline.
Success cannot be conceived or achieved in vacuum. The main purpose to incorporate discipline and positivity in our life is to achieve our goals.
“Without Self-discipline, success is impossible, period.” – Lou Holtz
The discipline of achieving them depends overall on the following factors.
Have a Specific goal
You should have a definite aim, a decisive and time-bound goal.You should have a clear mental image of it.
Choose a Path
You need to choose the path that you need to follow in achieving it and have strong will power to stick to that path.. that is discipline.
Master your thoughts
You need to be I full control of your mind and thought process. You should bring about discipline within your mind to overcome doubts and negative thoughts.
Have a strong desire
You should have a strong, sustained, intense and burning desire to achieve it. Self-discipline is something which comes from within. Your strong desire can act as a self- motivator.
Show confidence and faith in your efforts and persevere in a disciplined manner until your goal is achieved.
Self-discipline is the basic foundation of every new goal. It improves your will-power to overcome obstacles and moves you onwards towards your goal. Don’t change yourself all at once, instead include small disciplines one at a time. Every act of discipline strengthens your confidence and helps you stay focused on your goal.